Smoking Mirror

Can we really see into the windows of our soul? What do our eyes really say about us?
Do we all walk around with a mask? If our eyes could talk would we say what our hearts could not?
Life is an open door what we choose to do with it is the million dollar question. Do we invite people in or do we simply co-exit in a manner that allows us to masquerade as the world would have us?
Everything in life is a mirror that creates the images we portray. If we portray images of light and well being we become those things. If we portray shame or humiliation we also become those things. What are you seeing when you glance into the mirror? In order to receive you must first believe, you must first declare that all your beliefs about yourself are true. So what are you declaring about yourself, may just be what others see as they look into your eyes. We cannot hide what the mirror of our soul reflects and that is your eyes.So if you want your inner self and your outer self to match you need to balance the good with the bad.Once you make this realization the smoky mirror begins to clear and there you will see your true self.

So today, ask yourself if what you feel about yourself on the inside is what reflects yourself on the outside. We can all display a perfect outer shell but what lies beneath will always slip through the cracks and be revealed.

So be true to yourself and live the most authentic life possible and become what your inner self is. No more lies or deceit, but embrace yourself with all your flaws. we are all on the eternal search for truth, let that truth however painful propel you into wholeness. its just life ... what you living 4 today?

Why are so many marriages failing?

Why are so many marriages failing?

It’s twelve midnight and Cinderella’s shoe has fallen, but how many men would stop now days to pick it up. There’s a big ball going on out there but who’s invited? What is the criterion for the ball list? Tall, lean, busty, handsome, blonde or brunette how many of us really fall short of the list? They say that beauty is skin deep. But is there more to it than meets the eye, even Cinderella was transformed before going to the ball. She certainly didn’t show up in her old tattered clothes. Has society really placed such importance on the superficial exterior of our beings?

Wedding Bells are ringing but what are the chimes saying, “Ding Dong” or “something’s wrong.” For better or for worse is soon to be transformed into, for better or sex better”. What happened to commitment and lifelong companionship and trustworthy values and morals? Has society misplaced marriage and in its stead brought out the value system where a scale rating for the next best thing is what is expected. Has sex taken over the very mighty principles of a stead fast relationship?

It is estimated that 40-50% of all marriages will end in divorce. Are you still reading? This is almost half if not more. There are many different factors for divorce, marrying at an early age, lack of commitment, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, infidelity, lack of equality, lack of respect and in some cases abuse of one’s partner. There are many marriages that go through trial and tribulations and with good sound counseling they are back on track in their marriages more committed than ever. Divorce is at times necessary, and it may even be crucial for one’s well being and safety.

Interestingly enough when couples were asked in a survey how they felt about their divorce a number of individuals reported that they had wished that their spouse had tried harder to work things out. Although divorce is sometimes inevitable parents do have the responsibility to do all they can to preserve and repair a failed marriage for the sake of children. Now with that said, what about the preservation of our own selves, if there are no children in a marriage are we ourselves not worthy to be fought for or preserved?

 Infidelity is one of highest factors for divorce in our country, with one or both spouses having been sexually unfaithful in the marriage. Do we really live in a sexually tolerant society where being faithful is the minority and having relationships outside marriage has become the common drive thru? Has sex become such a common staple that we can line up in a drive thru in a Tim Horton’s Coffee shop and get one on the run; or choose the new flavor of the month? Infidelity is morally wrong but so is a lack of commitment or lack of caring, or with holding affection.

Have we as a society stopped believing in fairytales? Metaphorically speaking, did Cinderella lose more than a shoe; did Prince charming simply forget what side of the greener grass to look for it? A Marriage is a relationship which is built on a solid respectful friendship that meets the needs of two people, the joining of a non disputable bond of “until death do us part”. So how do you manage the problems that arise in marriage? We need to remember that marriage is a union of a man and a woman who make a permanent and exclusive commitment to one another, a union of hearts mind and soul and remembering that some principles should be non negotiable.

The power of a Woman

Yes, women need women! We know ourselves and we understand each other and see the world through different eyes. There are women who have met insurmountable odds in order to achieve some of the biggest dreams possible. But the real women who have achieved the most success are the ones who have inspirational stories who have overcome everyday challenges and have  grown not only in their self esteem but also in the sense of who they are and what they contribute to their world.  Today more than ever women are reaching out breaking all the molds and speaking out for other women. In today's world we  face challenges never before faced by any generation.  A very high divorce rate, high percentages of  single mothers struggling to make ends meet and leaving young children in care.The filthiness of the world that has led women to believe that "things"and "image" are more important than our emotional well being. The misconception that we as women need the perfect family,  husband and job in order to be all things to an all fallen world. We bear children we have periods we raise families while we juggle work, life, love and careers. In the most difficult times in my life is where I found all things both lost and hidden. Through darkness, tears and misfortune came a light and a hope. I did not see myself as a failed person but as a person who had been failed. I believe that we have what no man has, a gift that God gave to us. Unconditional love and courage! So leave no woman behind, when one falls we as women should not scoff but band together to pull her up. We should not be singular but universal, as Pink said in her song"were not broken just bent." If you see a woman who is slightly bent  reach out and support her and straighten her frame. Leave none behind and if your blessed, don't stop there, help to be a blessing in another's life. This blog is especially dedicated to all the women who picked me up and nurtured me when I had not only fallen, but lost my way through a difficult time. For all the women who stopped to guide and support me who lent of their time and energy to invest their love and time to pick me up. You all know who you are as there is too many to name.

Prabhath Avadhanula I wander on these crowded roads Wander through these streets Lie in fields of lonely rows Sown in empty seed. And what I need Is the power of a woman The healing of her touch Those eyes that bring redemption To every one of us. And all I need Is the summer of her solace The fall of her gaze The winter snows of her concerns That blossoms spring to change. I need her hand to guide me To a higher star And hold me back again When I have strayed too far. And when that commotion hurries This world to dissaray Give me the power of a woman And I will be okay.

An error will not necessarily be an end

An  error is not an end there are 365 days in a year,
365 days to remember to laugh to cry to live to challenge or regret.

There are endless hours upon hours where we may stay floating on that one memory from the past life that we may neither change nor alter.

One fatal decision to walk away or stay,
 A moment where just a split second saves you or destroys you.  One fatal moment when one unknowing act unravels such havoc and turmoil in our lives that it take us years to unravel the mystery in which we find ourselves.
A chance we didn't take, a risk we should have walked away from but did not.

There really is only one time for everything, unlike the carnival games where five dollars gets you multiple chances life has only one today one yesterday and only one tomorrow for which we can only live in that moment in time. 

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“And it's a disquieting thought that not even the past is done with, even that continues to change, as if in reality there is only one time, for everything, one time for every purpose under heaven. One single second, one single landscape, in which what happens activates and deactivates what has already happened in endless chain reactions, like the processes that take place in the brain, perhaps, where cells suddenly bloom and die away, all according to the way the winds of consciousness are blowing.” 

― Karl Ove Knausgård, A Time for Everything

From A Thorn Comes A Flower

In the midst of thorns comes a flower, barely visible for the eye to see. In the harvest from death comes life blossoming among the weeds.
"It will never work for me," your tempted to say. For every individual, every need, every hopeless and helpless situation comes life and a rebirth.

There is a higher power who specializes in transformations. He wants to transform every suffering into something wonderful.Every event of our lives presents the opportunity to learn our deepest lessons.
Today I see the rose surrounded among the thorns, I am tempted to reach for it, it is beautiful but the fear of being pricked causes alarm. But the risks outweigh the fear, at the end although a bit cut and battered the prize belongs to us. The lesson is for every thing beautiful, we must dive deep among the thorns until we reach the prize, no pain no gain.
Its just life, its what we live for.

Permission To be Me.....

These are things I give myself......

 

I give myself Permission to Rest.

I give myself leave... of all that hinders my spiritual progress and growth.

I give myself permission to Fail.

I give myself Authority to take a stand for what is mine.

Life is too short for long pity parties...... so I give myself permission to cry and loudly if needed!

I give myself the Belief in Miracles, God is waiting for me to see him in everything!

 I order myself  to go after what I love in life,  and not take no for an answer.

 

I authorise myself to burn all the good  candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie and wear my best perfume to bed for no one else but myself! I'm worth it!

Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift .......

I give myself and others the gift of forgiveness, I forgive  everyone everything.

  Lastly I give myself permission to just live

Life's promises for 2015..... Live and let Go 

It's Just Life, What are you living 4??

Check your price tag...

Choosing the right path and allowing yourself the pleasure of knowing who you really are is the wonder of your true identity. The analogy of throwing our lives in a pool of water and sifting it through, we look for the valuables and we discard the things we don't need. Who would choose a rotten old pair of shoes if we know that we could have a brand new pair. So we sift and we sift and bring to the surface the things of value.

 Our beliefs , our identities, our very nature and we discard the old , the used, and the things that have no real value. We trade these things in for the double digit price tags. We place value to ourselves and we take ourselves off the back shelves and we place ourselves in the forefront and place unimaginable value and worth to our persons. That's who we are and no one can place a value or a price tag on ourselves except for us. 

Stop accepting the value that others bestow on us and start to value yourself. We are irreplaceable and worth more than you can imagine.

The same belief that allows us to choose the Gucci over the Walmart brand, or the used car over the Mercedes. We are worth it! take a stand for yourself. Its just life... Live it without regret and live it knowing full well that your worth every bit of it.