Why are so many marriages failing?

Why are so many marriages failing?

It’s twelve midnight and Cinderella’s shoe has fallen, but how many men would stop now days to pick it up. There’s a big ball going on out there but who’s invited? What is the criterion for the ball list? Tall, lean, busty, handsome, blonde or brunette how many of us really fall short of the list? They say that beauty is skin deep. But is there more to it than meets the eye, even Cinderella was transformed before going to the ball. She certainly didn’t show up in her old tattered clothes. Has society really placed such importance on the superficial exterior of our beings?

Wedding Bells are ringing but what are the chimes saying, “Ding Dong” or “something’s wrong.” For better or for worse is soon to be transformed into, for better or sex better”. What happened to commitment and lifelong companionship and trustworthy values and morals? Has society misplaced marriage and in its stead brought out the value system where a scale rating for the next best thing is what is expected. Has sex taken over the very mighty principles of a stead fast relationship?

It is estimated that 40-50% of all marriages will end in divorce. Are you still reading? This is almost half if not more. There are many different factors for divorce, marrying at an early age, lack of commitment, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, infidelity, lack of equality, lack of respect and in some cases abuse of one’s partner. There are many marriages that go through trial and tribulations and with good sound counseling they are back on track in their marriages more committed than ever. Divorce is at times necessary, and it may even be crucial for one’s well being and safety.

Interestingly enough when couples were asked in a survey how they felt about their divorce a number of individuals reported that they had wished that their spouse had tried harder to work things out. Although divorce is sometimes inevitable parents do have the responsibility to do all they can to preserve and repair a failed marriage for the sake of children. Now with that said, what about the preservation of our own selves, if there are no children in a marriage are we ourselves not worthy to be fought for or preserved?

 Infidelity is one of highest factors for divorce in our country, with one or both spouses having been sexually unfaithful in the marriage. Do we really live in a sexually tolerant society where being faithful is the minority and having relationships outside marriage has become the common drive thru? Has sex become such a common staple that we can line up in a drive thru in a Tim Horton’s Coffee shop and get one on the run; or choose the new flavor of the month? Infidelity is morally wrong but so is a lack of commitment or lack of caring, or with holding affection.

Have we as a society stopped believing in fairytales? Metaphorically speaking, did Cinderella lose more than a shoe; did Prince charming simply forget what side of the greener grass to look for it? A Marriage is a relationship which is built on a solid respectful friendship that meets the needs of two people, the joining of a non disputable bond of “until death do us part”. So how do you manage the problems that arise in marriage? We need to remember that marriage is a union of a man and a woman who make a permanent and exclusive commitment to one another, a union of hearts mind and soul and remembering that some principles should be non negotiable.